considering just turning off my self-hosted matrix server because it's still slow and unreliable even after pulling every optimization and tweak I can find :/
like... loading a chatroom with one new message should not peg my vps to 100% for several minutes (mostly in postgres). that's just absurdly inefficient.
got rid of it. freed up almost a gig of ram+swap 🙃
Just a cozy little den on the fediverse :3